to me: scene is a movement. it's when a group of people who happen to like similar kinds of music and fashion (and many other things)come together. Consequently scenesters like to express themselves however they want to in relationship to the music or their interests. who cares how they dress, or talk, or feel. Everyone should dress how they like, talk how they want to, and feel what ever they damn well please.
how is scene any different than any other label? Jock, prep, girly, hick... If you want to label a group, fine. But don't put down a group of people for what they like just because they "annoy" you or because you don't understand them. Maybe you annoy the fuck out of someone else but they're not rude enough to label you as a piece of shit.